10 Questions That Changed My Life (and Might Change Yours Too)
Entrepreneurship and life don’t come with a manual. Over the last few years I’ve been through breakups, burnout, and building businesses from scratch. At one of my lowest points, I realised I couldn’t just keep running on autopilot.
So I stopped. I asked myself some hard questions. And those questions became the compass that pulled me back on track.
Here’s the story — and the 10 questions that changed everything for me.
Hitting Burnout
In a single year, I ended a six-year relationship, sold the company I’d built, and moved into my first home alone. All huge life changes, all at speed.
On the surface I distracted myself with new projects, new people, new things. Underneath, I was exhausted and burnt out.
For the first time, I felt truly lost. I kept pushing, telling myself to “stay positive,” but the truth was I was running on empty. Looking back, it was depression — a numbing pain that stripped away my creativity and energy.
It taught me something I wish I’d known sooner:
It’s okay not to be okay. And admitting it is the first step to change.
The Turning Point
One night I stopped trying to power through and started to listen. Instead of more hustle, I gave myself questions.
Not easy ones. Big ones. The kind that force you to sit with your own demons and rewrite your story.
Here are the 10 questions that pulled me out of burnout and gave me a new direction. Maybe they can do the same for you.
1. What are your truths?
These are the statements you believe about how the world works.
💭 Examples: “Life isn’t fair.” “Nobody is perfect.” “Progress > perfection.”
📖 Read: The Four Agreements — Don Miguel Ruiz
2. What are your values?
Values are your decision filter — they shape what you say yes or no to.
💭 Mine: Stay curious. Listen as much as you talk. Show empathy.
📖 Read: Dare to Lead — Brené Brown
3. What’s your cornerstone statement?
One sentence that sums up who you are and why you’re here.
💭 Mine: Follow your passions, find people who inspire you, and build things that make the world better.
4. What’s your mission?
Your North Star — the thing that keeps you moving when everything else falls apart.
💭 Mine: Change yourself, improve the world, create awesome things.
📖 Read: Man’s Search for Meaning — Viktor Frankl
5. What moves you?
List the moments, people, and experiences that make you feel most alive.
💭 Mine: Being in creative flow with the right people.
6. What are you most grateful for?
Gratitude turns what you have into enough.
💭 Mine: Health. Family. The people who believe in me.
📖 Read: The Gratitude Diaries — Janice Kaplan
7. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
Honesty here is power. Ask others if you’re not sure.
💭 Mine: Strength — vision. Weakness — self-doubt.
8. How will you improve both?
Weaknesses aren’t flaws, they’re feedback.
💭 Mine: Stop beating myself up. Focus on compounding small wins.
📖 Read: Atomic Habits — James Clear
9. What’s your biggest fear?
Fear is usually a signpost, not a stop sign.
💭 Mine: Not achieving my potential.
📖 Read: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway — Susan Jeffers
10. What would you do if money didn’t matter and nobody laughed?
This one strips away the mask.
💭 Mine: Be an astronaut 🚀 (still on the list).
How It Changed My Life
It took me over a month to write down my answers. Then I printed them and put them on my wall. They became my daily compass.
I built a vision board. I aligned with people who shared my values. I started to focus on the macro, not just the micro. Slowly, my energy and belief came back.
And here’s what I learned:
Clarity doesn’t come from hustle. It comes from asking better questions.
Final Thought
A year later, I was happier, healthier, and more focused than ever. Not because the problems went away, but because I had new tools to face them.
So if you feel lost, don’t start with more effort. Start with better questions.
👉 Which of these 10 questions do you need to ask yourself right now?
💭 3 Questions for You
1️⃣ What are your truths?
Write down the statements you believe about how the world works.
(Mine: Life isn’t fair. Nobody is perfect. Progress > perfection.)
2️⃣ What’s your mission?
Your North Star — the thing that guides you when everything else falls apart.
(Mine: Change yourself, improve the world, create awesome things.)
3️⃣ What would you do if money didn’t matter and nobody laughed?
This one strips away the mask.
(Mine: Be an astronaut 🚀.)
🎯 One Action for You
Pick one of these questions and sit with it this week. Write your answer down. You’ll be surprised what clarity comes from asking instead of forcing.
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